…and I am not even graduating!
Today is the first day of commencement at UT Austin and my Twitter and Facebook feeds are blowing up with students anxious and excited about graduation. However, when I see these updates I can feel my heart rate elevate ever so slightly. The real world: what I have been dreading all my life since I have been successful in avoiding it thanks to college and being dependent on my parents. What comes after school? Jobs? More schooling? Moving back home? <—Severely avoiding that one. It is all very scary to me. So, like a lame-o I decided to Google advice, you know, instead of asking my parents and I found a Forbes article:
1. A Little Perspective Goes A Long Way – Regardless of outward appearances, no one escapes life without enduring tragedy, hardship, and ridicule. The truth is, life is messy and people get hurt. The difference between those who overcome challenges and those who succumb to them is largely one of attitude and perspective. Embrace challenges and setbacks as not just refining moments, but also as defining moments. Don’t fall prey to challenges; learn from them. Remember, the perception of failure through one lens can often be a springboard to success when viewed through a different filter.2. Keep The Faith – Don’t fear life. Don’t allow life’s numerous and inevitable obstacles to impede your progress. Don’t let someone else define possible or impossible for you. Here’s the truth; the plausibility of impossibility only becomes a probability with the disappearance of faith. The world can take many things from you, but your faith is not one of them. Only you can surrender your faith. Never lose hope.
3. Life Is All About The People – Relationships are the biggest asset you have. Your world will be greatly impacted by those whom you choose to include and exclude from your life. Be kind to others, but most importantly, be intentional in building into others. While some short-term success can built at the expense of others, or on the backs of others, any sustainable achievements are built on the success they have created for others. Think “selfless” as opposed to “selfish.” Family and friends are worth more than job titles. Life is about people – not things. The funny thing is, if you do right by people things will never be an issue.
4. Stand Out From The Crowd – The world despises a cheap imitation and loves an original. Conformity to the norm will merely sentence you to mediocrity, obsolescence, and irrelevance. Everyone has unique gifts and talents, and the earlier you discover and develop yours the better off you’ll be. Build your personal brand, become a subject matter expert, and guard your reputation. Everyone has a personal brand – the question is will it be built by default or by design. Everything you do should enhance and reinforce your story.
5. Any Job Is A Good Job –There is no such thing as underemployment if you don’t have a job. No job is beneath you if you’re unemployed. Every day you don’t put money in the bank, you’re unnecessarily lowering your water line. It may not be much fun selling shoes with your freshly minted law degree in hand, but it’s a start – it’s a step in the right direction. The most important life skill you can develop isleadership ability. You don’t have to be in charge to lead – you can lead in any capacity regardless of the position you hold.
6. Be Serious About What You Do, But Don’t Take Yourself Too Seriously – Humor can provide needed relief when times get tough. What many fail to understand is sometimes in order to find the humor you actually have to look for it. If you want others to take you seriously, the first thing you need to do is to get over yourself. The most important barrier to overcome is the barrier of self.
7. Success vs. Significance – It’s important to realize there is not just one definition of success. Success means different things to different people, and that’s okay. It’s not other’s definitions you should be concerned with, but your own. The funny thing is, your own definition of success will likely change more than a few times as you experience more of life, and that’s the key – experience life. As you continue your journey of personal and professional growth, it’s my hope your sights will shift from the modest pursuit of success to the passionate pursuit of significance. My counsel is to find something bigger than you, and become a passionate, committed servant of whatever that cause or endeavor may be.
8. Learning Doesn’t Stop When You Graduate – Learning is a life long endeavor. The minute you stop learning is the minute you cede opportunities to others. Always look to challenge and refine your thinking. View everything through the lens of learning. Life is about learning and unlearning, and developing and growing. Don’t waste your experiences – view them as learning opportunities.
9. The Difference Between Happiness and Joy – I can remember watching my kids grow up, and naively praying for their happiness. Sure, I still pray for their happiness, but I know happiness is the wrong goal. Happiness and joy are not one in the same – happiness comes and goes – it’s fleeting at best, it’s most often deceptive, and at worst the pursuit of happiness above all else can lead to ruin. Joy however is something that can be found in any circumstance or setting. It’s the joyful people who stand out to me. They are the lemonade makers – the ones who see the best in people, not the worst. Regardless of the hand they’re dealt, they don’t complain or become bitter. They remain joyful and continue pushing forward in pursuit of their dream.
10. Live Below Your Means – Debt is not your friend – it’s a plague, and I’d suggest you avoid it as such. If you want to become indentured to creditors then by all means, live the high life. Purchasing something you can’t afford won’t seem like such a great idea as you watch it get repossessed. Liquidity and cash flow give you options, which will afford you the ability to work through tough times. You place everything at risk when you become over-leveraged.
Now these tips are nothing new, but they are easily forgotten and helped calmed down my mini, vicarious freak-out. So, congrats to all the graduating seniors! You did it.